Setting a goal is halfway to achieving it!

We all know that the most successful people are goal-orientated. But it’s not just about having an idea of what you want, it’s committing to setting them that counts!

It seems simple doesn’t it? The idea that setting goals goes hand in hand with achieving goals. Some of you might even wonder how it’s possible to achieve a goal you haven’t set. But the reality is, when we think about what we want- whether it’s earning a pay rise or losing ten pounds, more often than not, it’s the end result we think of. We picture ourselves with more money or feeling more confident in a swimsuit, but that’s not really a goal it’s a wish. Without mapping out our goals and a plausible way to achieve them, our greatest desires and ambitions become nothing more than daydreams. The problem with daydreams is, they vanish into thin air! Daydreams can also hinder your progress. You can become focussed on the comforting and pleasant thoughts of your end result, rather than focussing on the hard tasks and obstacles you need to overcome.

Here are my suggestions on how to take your goals out of your head and into reality!

  1. Quite literally make them physical, don’t allow them to just be ideas at the back of your mind. There are a few different ways to do this, but the easiest way is to simply write them down. Dr Gail Matthews, who has spent a career dedicated to understanding people’s ambitions, has shown that you are 42% more likely to achieve a goal that you note down. Her favourite tactic (and mine too) however, is to draw them. You don’t have to be an artist, but a visual representation helps you think more clearly and identify those details which may otherwise be missing from the picture in your head. Dr Matthews’ study shows that those who draw their goal are an incredible 80% more likely to stick to them.
  2. Once you have a clear visualisation of your goal and what it will take to achieve it, it’ll be much easier to break it down into chunks. Once you have more manageable and achievable steps, you’ll see regular action that moves you closer to your goal. Nothing is more motivating than celebrating progress!
  3. Tell somebody about your goal! It’s amazing how much of a difference being accountable to somebody else, makes to motivation. Once you talk about your goal with somebody else, it really is a ‘set’ and ‘real’ thing. Besides, it’s always lovely to have someone on hand as your own personal cheerleader!

 

All of these processes should foster motivation and focus, as well as providing you with a strong sense of vision and purpose! The perfect recipe for success.

Text Coaching

A more relaxed but still super effective kind of coaching

In the age of the iPhone a lot of people now prefer to communicate by text that over the telephone or sometimes even face to face.

Ofcom found that we sent 102 billion text messages in the UK alone in 2011 and a further 48 billion WhatsApp messages and those figure are only increasing.

Recently I have trialled text coaching with a few clients and we have developed great action plans that have them working towards their goals. The goals have been varied from finding a purpose, to weight loss to relationship problems.

The medium of text allows the coach the time to think of the perfect question, and the coachee the opportunity to ‘say’ things they might struggle to out loud.  It also means the coachee is in their own environment and does not need to travel or talk to anyone about where they’re going. It also means the coach can support anyone around the world. The other evening I was supporting a client all the way in Dubai from my cosy sofa in Essex, England!

Of course it is vital that as a coach you explain that you will be asking tricky questions and that as a coachee they should be as honest as they can even if their answer is I don’t know or can you rephrase that.

A great benefit to clients is also that text coaching is a cost effective option. As there is no room rental or travel for the coach, I am able to pass that saving back.

If you’d like to give text coaching a go, pop me an email at Georgina@essexlifecoach.com and let’s see how we can work together.

What is Life Coaching?

cuddling bunnies and dancing in the rain?

Hear the term life coaching and often people conjure up thoughts of someone spouting motivational quotes and high fiving you for breathing…. it’s not that

The simplest definition I’ve come up with is supporting someone to reach their goals by exploring the reality and options available to establish a clear, achievable plan.

A coach will ask you thought provoking questions to help you identify how you can achieve your goals in small steps. They will also make you accountable and will follow up with you.
Overall your coach is the translator for your tangled inner thoughts as well as the person who will help you keep on track. A good coach will give you a safe space and the time to spend on yourself, which is invaluable.

As a coach I’m excited to help people achieve their happy!

Christmas Wishes

‘Tis the season to reconnect

I hope everyone had a great Christmas!

The festive period is a great excuse to reconnect with people you may have lost touch with, or to spend more time with those that you can’t normally due to other commitments.

Using time off effectively is a key focus for me. Making sure I plan to see those people more regularly instead of just coming in and getting into the latest boxset. In making plans and setting reminders you’ll get more done.

People aren’t around forever and relationships won’t strengthen themselves, so perhaps now is the time to re-focus and find time for that coffee or phone call.